One hundred years ago this month, October 1919 Congress passed the Volstead Act — enforcing a national ban on alcohol

The Volstead act lasted from 1920 until 1933. Unfortunately it promoted illegal production of alcohol and crime. Perhaps it is time to look at the history of alcohol. THE DRINKING WOMAN REVISITED has a whole chapter devoted to alcohol’s biography. Briefly before western medicine achieved its cures alcohol was the only medicine available for anesthesia, women’s menstrual cramps, hysteria etc. Alcohol’s side effects are horrendous. Blackouts, passing out, addiction, damage   to the brain and yes, too frequently death.

What to do if you are nervous, anxious, insecure and perhaps already addicted to alcohol? Much help is available today. The first is test yourself to see if you suffer from alcohol addiction. The test is simple. Go one week without alcohol. If you can do it without any uncomfortable feelings you are not an alcoholic and you should start looking at why you drink. Social? To relax? There are plenty of women who meet their friends and order a virgin cocktail. No reason or excuse is needed. Some will say, “Alcohol disagrees with me.” Some will joke and say, “I need every brain cell I have.” Others may make an excuse, “I am taking medicine.” Those who feel comfortable with their decision will say, “I don’t drink” or “We are a non-alcohol family.”

If you have trouble with the one week test be good to yourself. See a doctor specializing in addiction. Contact the American Society of Addiction Medicine for the resources in your state. If you don’t have medical insurance visit Alcoholics Anonymous, Women for Sobriety, In The Rooms. If you are a very private person you can work with these groups on line. However, making in person contact with these groups helps you to make new friends, get important information such as what to do if you are having trouble with your children, where to go if you can’t afford a doctor, how to get a good job, where to go if you are homeless.

Go for it.



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  1. Change Your Lifestyle

Healing isn’t just about quit drinking alcohol. It’s about establishing new goals full of good habits. If a person stops consuming alcohol suddenly, he/she might feel like something’s missing. In order to keep yourself busy, instead of drinking alcohol replace different activities you love to do and be with people who bring you joy and happiness.

  1. Stay Away from your unhealthy friendships

It’s never easy to stop friendships. It can be particularly challenging when a person is a lifetime companion. In some situations, An individual needs to end relationships with friends. Friends who have addicted to substance abuse like alcohol addiction may find difficulty in understanding the importance of your sobriety and taking you out to the bar, makes to leave your sobriety and return to harmful and toxic habits.

  1. Get the help of professionals

If you are addicted to alcohol and unable to quit drinking alcohol on your own, it’s necessary to ask for guidance and assistance. When you are dependent upon substance like alcohol addiction, stopping alcohol suddenly can lead to very dangerous recession symptoms. If an individual wants to quit drinking problem, he/she can discover the help of professionals to recover from alcohol addiction.

  1. Engage in physical activities

When a person engages themselves in physical activities like exercise, playing games, practicing yoga regularly and maintain a healthy diet makes you quit alcohol and improves or maintains physical, mental fitness and overall health and wellness. if he/she practices healthy activities they can feel better, and their confidence will improve as a result.

  1. Don’t Give Up

Maximum individuals who strongly stop or quit alcohol completely do so only after many trials. A person will apparently face challenges and difficulties, but don’t let them stop you from reaching your long-term recovery. There’s absolutely no final end point, as the recovery process usually needs continuous effort.


Make Parenting Easier

Parenting can be tough especially if you are dealing with addiction. Think you are the only one? Think again. There is a group who understands. Visit

It’s tough to stop drinking

I talk a lot about denial because once denial of addiction has been conquered healing can take place. Denial is the biggest reason people do not give up addiction. Denial was first connoted by the man often called the father of psychiatry, Sigmund Freud. I actually looked up denial on Wikepedia which defines denial (also called abnegation) <as> “a defense mechanism in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence.”

What I really found interesting is that Wikepedia defines 3 types of denial:

The best way to break through the denial is to have an intervention. Seek out a professional who works with people suffering from addiction. Go to The National Intervention for Drugs and Alcohol (NIDA) to seek out someone in your area. or phone (800) 567-5986



Yes, we all know it has been said many times. We heard it when we were children: healthy habits are important. What are healthy habits? Obviously cleanliness and diet. But more, exercise and mental health. Let’s zero in on exercise and mental health. If you are in the process of giving up drinking exercise and mental health decisions can be of great help. Exercise? OK, not all of us like to do it.  Pick something you like. Walking two miles a day is perfect. Even better walk with your friends. Have children? Walk with them. What to do on a rainy day? Invest in a second hand stationary bicycle. I know one woman who walks up and down her stairs ten times. Be determined to figure it out.

Mental health is a big one. If you can afford one on one counseling go for it. Be sure that you know your therapists qualifications. Pick someone who specializes in addiction. Check out where they trained. Can’t afford it? Have no insurance? Go to Alcoholics Anonymous. During the coffee break speak to your cohorts and ask them if they know of a therapy group. And, remember, thanks to the internet there is  In The Rooms which describes itself as “In The Rooms Addiction Social Network’s purpose is to help people with Drug Addiction, Alcoholism, Prescription Drug Addiction, Pain Killer Addiction and More.” And, privacy is guaranteed. Names are never asked.

Do it!






Denial is the biggest problem in any addiction. But just looking at this web site is a big first step. Remember alcoholism is a disease so do not blame yourself.  Look at your family history. Are there others members with the disease? But lets get back to you. OK, so you may have an urge to drink. You may have tried giving up drinking and found the withdrawal a nightmare. Lets go a step further. If the withdrawal is tough there is medical help available. Go to your physician and ask her/him for help. If you do not have a physician attend an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. No one will ask your name. Those who are not first time attendees have all gone through withdrawals and will help you. There will be some members who did their withdrawals with the help of a physician and who will gladly tell you who helped them. If you are far from a town you can attend an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting on line. If you are someone living with an alcoholic you may want to look at the intervention possibility. Go to The National Intervention for Drugs and Alcohol (NIDA) to seek out someone in your area. or phone (800) 567-5986.  You may also want to attend Al-Anon.

Does religion help?

April 4, 2019

Yes, religion does help. It fills a void. You go to services with other people. There are support groups within religious groups. Religion helps you deal with tension, stress and anxiety. You won’t be the only one dealing with fears, with wanting answers. Those who believe feel someone is watching over them. They repeat, “God who art in heaven —-.” Believers often hand their anxieties over to God, let the deity handle all their stresses.

But suppose you don’t believe. Yes, there is Alcoholics Anonymous, Women for Sobriety and if you want something more, something independent of addiction groups look up Ethical Culture. They define themselves as “a humanist community dedicated to ethical relationships, social justice, and environmental stewardship since 1876.”  You may make suggestions as to what the group should discuss. Addiction? Greed? Anxiety?

Albert Einstein supported the idea of Ethical Culture. He had said, “Without ‘ethical culture’ there is no salvation for humanity.” The groups exist mostly in big cities. However, you may want to get in touch with an Ethical Culture group near you to find out how to organize your own association.


March 1, 2019

To feed your addiction you sometimes are forced to lead “the life.”  Want to get out? Or know someone who wants to get out? Or have a relative who is breaking your heart? There is a great organization. It’s called NoVo which means anew, refresh, revive, change, alter, invent. Their purpose is to end violence against girls and women which includes the sex trade or which women or girls call “the life.”  Visit their web site at or phone them at 212.808.5400. Go for it.

February 9, 2019

Lets discuss cross addiction. Where do you go for help? First of all be aware that you are not the only one suffering from cross addiction. The United States government has a list of organizations which can help. Just visit:  to find out who can help. If your addiction is not mentioned as for example gambling or sexual problems just google the issue and a list will come up. The important thing is to do something about your issues. Yes, you may have to go to more than one meeting which is good because at each meeting you will meet people who will understand you. Go for it. Be good to yourself.