Denial is the biggest problem in any addiction. But just looking at this web site is a big first step. Remember alcoholism is a disease so do not blame yourself.  Look at your family history. Are there others members with the disease? But lets get back to you. OK, so you may have an urge to drink. You may have tried giving up drinking and found the withdrawal a nightmare. Lets go a step further. If the withdrawal is tough there is medical help available. Go to your physician and ask her/him for help. If you do not have a physician attend an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. No one will ask your name. Those who are not first time attendees have all gone through withdrawals and will help you. There will be some members who did their withdrawals with the help of a physician and who will gladly tell you who helped them. If you are far from a town you can attend an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting on line. If you are someone living with an alcoholic you may want to look at the intervention possibility. Go to The National Intervention for Drugs and Alcohol (NIDA) to seek out someone in your area. or phone (800) 567-5986.  You may also want to attend Al-Anon.

Does religion help?

April 4, 2019

Yes, religion does help. It fills a void. You go to services with other people. There are support groups within religious groups. Religion helps you deal with tension, stress and anxiety. You won’t be the only one dealing with fears, with wanting answers. Those who believe feel someone is watching over them. They repeat, “God who art in heaven —-.” Believers often hand their anxieties over to God, let the deity handle all their stresses.

But suppose you don’t believe. Yes, there is Alcoholics Anonymous, Women for Sobriety and if you want something more, something independent of addiction groups look up Ethical Culture. They define themselves as “a humanist community dedicated to ethical relationships, social justice, and environmental stewardship since 1876.”  You may make suggestions as to what the group should discuss. Addiction? Greed? Anxiety?

Albert Einstein supported the idea of Ethical Culture. He had said, “Without ‘ethical culture’ there is no salvation for humanity.” The groups exist mostly in big cities. However, you may want to get in touch with an Ethical Culture group near you to find out how to organize your own association.


March 1, 2019

To feed your addiction you sometimes are forced to lead “the life.”  Want to get out? Or know someone who wants to get out? Or have a relative who is breaking your heart? There is a great organization. It’s called NoVo which means anew, refresh, revive, change, alter, invent. Their purpose is to end violence against girls and women which includes the sex trade or which women or girls call “the life.”  Visit their web site at or phone them at 212.808.5400. Go for it.

February 9, 2019

Lets discuss cross addiction. Where do you go for help? First of all be aware that you are not the only one suffering from cross addiction. The United States government has a list of organizations which can help. Just visit:  to find out who can help. If your addiction is not mentioned as for example gambling or sexual problems just google the issue and a list will come up. The important thing is to do something about your issues. Yes, you may have to go to more than one meeting which is good because at each meeting you will meet people who will understand you. Go for it. Be good to yourself.

January 4, 2019

Happy new year to all of you. I learned something interesting during the holiday season. There are recovered alcoholics who do not go to restaurants which have bars in the dining area. They claim that they do not want to deal with the smell of alcohol. It makes a lot of sense. It pays to have a list of restaurants where you feel comfortable. Alcoholics aren’t the only ones with strong preferences. A vegetarian told me that he does not feel comfortable sitting across from someone who is eating chicken and he has to look at the bones, a sort of an in part symbol of what killing an animal means.

We all have our preferences. Do what’s best for you.

December 2, 2018

Time to think about new year resolutions. It also is time to remember that a resolution without a plan is only a wish. Have you been thinking about doing something about your addiction? I know it is tough. If you are a Mom you might not want to go away because you don’t want to leave your children for weeks at a time. Here is something you may want to consider – Partial Hospitalization Programs. They vary in each state. Some may have child care. What is great about Partial Hospitalization Programs you get to go home each night. During the day they diagnose your issues, have proper medical care and programs for your issues. Every alcoholic needs a thorough check-up. Are you drinking because you are depressed? Is your serotonin too low? What is your attitude and your hope of giving up drinking? Look into Partial Hospitalization Programs. Don’t have health care insurance? The Partial Hospitalization Program  in your area may have information available how you can pay for your treatment. Be good to yourself in 2019. Get yourself into treatment.

October 3, 2018

Don’t like Alcoholics Anonymous? Don’t want to do the 12 Steps? AA does help people achieve sobriety. Statistics tell us that the 12 Steps do work. However, you can try other methods. Do visit WOMEN FOR SOBRIETY.  This is how they describe themselves:

Women For Sobriety is “a non-profit secular addiction recovery group for women with addiction problems. WFS was created by sociologist Jean Kirkpatrick in 1976 as an alternative to twelve-step addiction recovery groups like Alcoholics Anonymous. As of 1998 there were more than 200 WFS groups worldwide.”

WFS delivers only if you wish it weekly inspirational messages to your mailbox. To learn more go to


There are women who belong both to AA and WFS.

August 2, 2018

Haven’t bought the book, The Drinking Woman Revisited? That’s OK. Ask your library to buy it and then you can take it out and read it. The book will talk about sexuality and female alcoholism, how your background may effect your sex life, it will discuss the hereditary factor, stress and family living, the cultural factor, how you can start to think about not drinking, how to pick up the pieces in your life, where to seek help and much more. Information is your best friend.

July 13, 2018

Alcoholism is a tough disease. When you have blackouts, tremors, a rebellious stomach, have to face the anger of your family who have to deal with your disease you may find  a godsend. FACING ADDICTION defines itself as “a non-profit organization dedicated to finding solutions to addiction by unifying the voice of Americans directly impacted by addiction.”  Imagine finding out how others feel who are facing addiction. FACING ADDICTIONS’s attitude is “being sick is not a crime.” When on the FACING ADDICTION web site do visit their Here you will be able to invite your relatives, co-workers, friends and choose what they might say. Sound unusual? Yes, but it will make you think – positively. Go for it.

June 6, 2018

It’s graduation time which also means party time. I heard this story where a mother wanting to be a “pal” to her daughter decided to drink with her daughter to celebrate her high school graduation. Most States in our country have a law which says alcohol may not be served to anyone under the age of 21. The reason for that is that the brain is not yet fully formed and alcohol does damage the brain. In some States it is a felony to serve alcohol to those under 21 which means that the adult serving the liquor could be arrested. For those of you mothers who have a drinking problem protect your children. Tell them how awful addiction is – that you don’t enjoy slurring your words, being sorry the next day for what you had said, for passing out, for embarrassing your children. Help them not to drink.