Finding the isolation the Corona virus has placed us in difficult? You are not alone. Reach out. Talk it over with someone who understands. The National Alliance on Mental Illness has good suggestions. Telephone Help Line: 1-800-950-6264 or firstname.lastname@example.org
I am going to start this blog with an article you should all read. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/26/smarter-living/the-difference-between-worry-stress-and-anxiety
We at times have all felt worried, stressed and anxious. The New York Times article helps us to understand why and when we have these emotions.
Right now we as a nation are worried if we and/or our loved ones are in danger of getting the Corona virus. We have been instructed how to protect ourselves. However those of us who suffer from worry/stress/anxiety may over worry. Those who suffer from addiction may rationalize “I need a drink” to calm down. Deep down you know that it is just another excuse to drink. It may be a good time to get in touch with Women For Sobriety, Alcoholics Anonymous, In The Rooms. Just do it. Even if you are still drinking they will welcome you. It is a beginning. Be good to yourself.
This also may be a good time to voice the serenity prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
It is said there is not one family that does not have a member who suffers from alcoholism. It may be a distant cousin, nevertheless a member. It also is said if that person had never been exposed to alcohol he/she would not know that they have that propensity. That being said if you have a teenager in your family about whom you are worried remember that having a plan often helps to solve a problem. Take action. Copy/paste the following in your search engine. It is a good start.
Seabrook Rehab has this holiday tip, well worth noting: Do not neglect your daily routine. Attend meetings, practice yoga/ meditation & any tools you use each day to remain grounded in #sobriety. If you are away from home, attend a local meeting in the area you are visiting or an online meeting.
The Volstead act lasted from 1920 until 1933. Unfortunately it promoted illegal production of alcohol and crime. Perhaps it is time to look at the history of alcohol. THE DRINKING WOMAN REVISITED has a whole chapter devoted to alcohol’s biography. Briefly before western medicine achieved its cures alcohol was the only medicine available for anesthesia, women’s menstrual cramps, hysteria etc. Alcohol’s side effects are horrendous. Blackouts, passing out, addiction, damage to the brain and yes, too frequently death.
What to do if you are nervous, anxious, insecure and perhaps already addicted to alcohol? Much help is available today. The first is test yourself to see if you suffer from alcohol addiction. The test is simple. Go one week without alcohol. If you can do it without any uncomfortable feelings you are not an alcoholic and you should start looking at why you drink. Social? To relax? There are plenty of women who meet their friends and order a virgin cocktail. No reason or excuse is needed. Some will say, “Alcohol disagrees with me.” Some will joke and say, “I need every brain cell I have.” Others may make an excuse, “I am taking medicine.” Those who feel comfortable with their decision will say, “I don’t drink” or “We are a non-alcohol family.”
If you have trouble with the one week test be good to yourself. See a doctor specializing in addiction. Contact the American Society of Addiction Medicine for the resources in your state. If you don’t have medical insurance visit Alcoholics Anonymous, Women for Sobriety, In The Rooms. If you are a very private person you can work with these groups on line. However, making in person contact with these groups helps you to make new friends, get important information such as what to do if you are having trouble with your children, where to go if you can’t afford a doctor, how to get a good job, where to go if you are homeless.
Go for it.
This comes from: https://800recoveryhub.com/quit-drinking-alcohol/
- Change Your Lifestyle
Healing isn’t just about quit drinking alcohol. It’s about establishing new goals full of good habits. If a person stops consuming alcohol suddenly, he/she might feel like something’s missing. In order to keep yourself busy, instead of drinking alcohol replace different activities you love to do and be with people who bring you joy and happiness.
- Stay Away from your unhealthy friendships
It’s never easy to stop friendships. It can be particularly challenging when a person is a lifetime companion. In some situations, An individual needs to end relationships with friends. Friends who have addicted to substance abuse like alcohol addiction may find difficulty in understanding the importance of your sobriety and taking you out to the bar, makes to leave your sobriety and return to harmful and toxic habits.
- Get the help of professionals
If you are addicted to alcohol and unable to quit drinking alcohol on your own, it’s necessary to ask for guidance and assistance. When you are dependent upon substance like alcohol addiction, stopping alcohol suddenly can lead to very dangerous recession symptoms. If an individual wants to quit drinking problem, he/she can discover the help of professionals to recover from alcohol addiction.
- Engage in physical activities
When a person engages themselves in physical activities like exercise, playing games, practicing yoga regularly and maintain a healthy diet makes you quit alcohol and improves or maintains physical, mental fitness and overall health and wellness. if he/she practices healthy activities they can feel better, and their confidence will improve as a result.
- Don’t Give Up
Maximum individuals who strongly stop or quit alcohol completely do so only after many trials. A person will apparently face challenges and difficulties, but don’t let them stop you from reaching your long-term recovery. There’s absolutely no final end point, as the recovery process usually needs continuous effort.
Parenting can be tough especially if you are dealing with addiction. Think you are the only one? Think again. There is a group who understands. Visit https://parentingjourney.org/parents/sober-parenting-journey/
I talk a lot about denial because once denial of addiction has been conquered healing can take place. Denial is the biggest reason people do not give up addiction. Denial was first connoted by the man often called the father of psychiatry, Sigmund Freud. I actually looked up denial on Wikepedia which defines denial (also called abnegation) <as> “a defense mechanism in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence.”
What I really found interesting is that Wikepedia defines 3 types of denial:
- simple denial: deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether
- minimisation: admit the fact but deny its seriousness (a combination of denial and rationalization)
- projection: admit both the fact and seriousness but deny responsibility by blaming somebody or something else.
The best way to break through the denial is to have an intervention. Seek out a professional who works with people suffering from addiction. Go to The National Intervention for Drugs and Alcohol (NIDA) to seek out someone in your area. http://www.interventiondrugsandalcohol.org or phone (800) 567-5986
Yes, we all know it has been said many times. We heard it when we were children: healthy habits are important. What are healthy habits? Obviously cleanliness and diet. But more, exercise and mental health. Let’s zero in on exercise and mental health. If you are in the process of giving up drinking exercise and mental health decisions can be of great help. Exercise? OK, not all of us like to do it. Pick something you like. Walking two miles a day is perfect. Even better walk with your friends. Have children? Walk with them. What to do on a rainy day? Invest in a second hand stationary bicycle. I know one woman who walks up and down her stairs ten times. Be determined to figure it out.
Mental health is a big one. If you can afford one on one counseling go for it. Be sure that you know your therapists qualifications. Pick someone who specializes in addiction. Check out where they trained. Can’t afford it? Have no insurance? Go to Alcoholics Anonymous. During the coffee break speak to your cohorts and ask them if they know of a therapy group. And, remember, thanks to the internet there is In The Rooms https://www.intherooms.com/ which describes itself as “In The Rooms Addiction Social Network’s purpose is to help people with Drug Addiction, Alcoholism, Prescription Drug Addiction, Pain Killer Addiction and More.” And, privacy is guaranteed. Names are never asked.