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PREGNANCY

With all the news about the supreme court’s decision to overturn Roe versus Wade, no matter what your stand is on abortion, those women who are alcoholics have special needs. My book, The Drinking Woman Revisited, has a whole chapter devoted to alcoholism and pregnancy.  If you are a member of a library you, as a member, have the  right to ask them to get a copy for you.  Otherwise you can as well buy it on line. 

What is important to know is that when you drink alcohol while pregnant it passes on to the fetus in the same concentration as nourishment is passed on to the fetus, and the drinking mother is placing her baby as much in danger of a withdrawal syndrome as she is. Obstetricians and gynecologists as well as primary physicians are all trained to help alcoholics. There are medicines that help you curtail drinking. If you don’t get the compassion and medical advice you need change doctors.  If you are having a hard time stopping to drink take one step at a time, one day at time. Go to ​Alcoholics Anonymous​ meetings and get a sponsor who will understand your situation and be there for you.

It is not unusual for an alcoholic to get pregnant after having been to a party where she can’t remember what happened because she had so much to drink.  It is important that you, if this is your story, not feel isolated. Another place to  call is Women For Sobriety​ (215) 536-8026 or email to contact@womenforsobriety.org. They will provide you help. Anonymity is always respected.

Abortion is a private and very personal decision. You may want to discuss this with your priest, minister, rabbi or a family member before you decide how to handle your predicament.

Many women are managing abortion today with pills. Be aware what is involved, what to expect, and if there could be any serious side effects. Here are some online networks which will help you decide what might work for you. If you do decide to order a pill or pills on line find out how long delivery takes. You don’t want medicines to arrive at a time when you are too advanced in your pregnancy.

MYA NETWORK puts you in touch with physicians who answer questions about self-managed abortions.

ABORTION PILL INFO has advice how to keep your online research private.

AID ACCESS  screens women on line and orders abortion pills from overseas.

PLAN C  an organization that has a list available of pharmacies which sell the various abortion pills.

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Whether you are a Mom, Grandma, Aunt, Sister you may want to know —-

We have all been trying to understand the latest school shootings. You may feel awful, confused about how to talk to the school children in your family. You yourself may need help. Just log in to: https://www.samhsa.gov/blog/addressing-trauma-mass-violence?utm_source=SAMHSA&utm_campaign=663f420fa3-SAMHSA_Blog_2022_06_22_1601271&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_ee1c4b138c-663f420fa3-167818301.

You can also copy/paste the link on to google. Do it you are not alone.

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IMPORTANT NEWS

On July 16, 2022, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) will transition to an easy-to-remember, 3-digit number (988). This represents an unprecedented opportunity to strengthen and expand the existing network of over 200 locally operated and funded crisis centers across the country.

In advance of the 988 transition in July, the Lifeline Suicide & Crisis Network is looking to bring on new volunteers and paid employees to answer calls, chats, and texts from people in crisis. All employees and volunteers receive training, so if you are a caring person who wants to help those in crisis, apply today.

Find YOUR opportunity: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988/jobs

Read more about 988 at https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988

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Pregnant? Just had a baby? Read this:

Partnership To End Addiction just came out with this message:

Mental health conditions are among the most common medical complications during pregnancy, and suicide and overdose are among the leading causes of death for postpartum individuals. However, pregnant and postpartum individuals often do not receive needed treatment.

This has negative long-term consequences not only for the parent, but also for their child and families. Research has found that parental mental health and substance use disorders increase children’s risk for early symptoms of behavioral problems and subsequent substance use.

Amid the growing overdose and youth mental health crises, addressing parental mental health and substance use is more critical than ever.

Tell your members of Congress to support the Into the Light for Maternal Mental Health and Substance Use Disorders Act (S. 3824/H.R. 7073), which would reauthorize and expand an existing screening and treatment program for maternal mental health conditions and substance use disorders and provide continued funding for the Maternal Mental Health Hotline, a 24/7 program operated by health care professionals trained to help pregnant or postpartum individuals and family members affected by maternal mental health and substance use disorders.

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STILL TRYING TO STOP DRINKING

Listen you are not alone. You can do it. You have been thinking about going maybe to Alcoholics Anonymous or Women For Sobriety. Perhaps the “meeting” thing, the “group” thing at the moment is not for you. Here is something you can try:

Partnership to End Addiction  711 Third Avenue, 5th Floor, Suite 500 New York, NY 10017

You can get in touch by phone anonymously and talk to one person. click on the contact and arrange a phone call – just you, anonymously, and a compassionate person. Get Support Now  https://scheduler.drugfree.org/ The help is free, confidential and safe.  

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TRY THIS – MOVIES

Whether you are a recovered alcoholic, recently have stopped drinking or are trying to stop you may find something in common with these movies. A story often explains a problem, a disease in a compassionate and informative way.

Let’s start with humor, 28 Days, will make you laugh. Certainly, addiction is not funny, but there are moments in the story that point out some humorous incidence. This movie tells the story of a woman who received a 28 day court order to go into a treatment center. Watch it. You’ll recognize and have compassion for many of the incidences.

When Love Is Not Enough Based on the true story of the troubled marriage between Lois Wilson, co-founder of Al-Anon, and her alcoholic husband Bill Wilson, co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Once Bill was sober he devoted himself to helping other alcoholics. Lois felt neglected and when she learned that other wives living with recovered alcoholics felt the same way she started Al-anon. Today we have Al-Anon also for husbands who live with that problem. And lets not forget Ala-teen.

Here is an oldie, but still relevant today, Wine And Roses, a story of a young happily married couple where their social and lets have fun drinking eventually trespasses into alcoholism.

Many of these movies are free on YouTube.